Never Read The Comments!

As some of you may know, and if you're a loyal reader, you DO know .... my son was diagnosed with High Functioning Autism this past February.    If you'd like to read more about that, click this link.

I am a true believer that everything has a purpose.   Whether we like it or not, God has a plan.   It's not our job to like it, but it is our job to trust it.    After Elliot was diagnosed, I decided to join some parenting groups online and for the most part - it has been a rather positive experience.

However, lately, as the school year begins for kids on the spectrum -- there have been all sorts of posts out there which basically encourage parents to bully the special education teacher and the IEP team.    I'm on both sides here.   I'm a special education teacher and I do a damn good job.    I'm entering year 15 and I've never once been taken to due process.   I am also a mom of a child with Autism.   

When I saw this post - I felt irritated:

"Remember, YOU are in charge, NOT them."   

Ummm... actually, it's a team effort.   That's why it is called an IEP TEAM.   I don't know one educator out there who isn't in this for the best possible solution and plan for all students to be successful.    I commented on the post and said it was a team effort and I was shocked at the amount of moms who ended up sending me private messages.    I also indicated that some of the things on this list... aren't really accurate at all. 

I reported the page for inaccurate information.

I completely understand that the IEP process can be an emotional one.   I've been there.   I cried during Elliot's first IEP meeting.   I don't even know why!   He's smart.   He's gifted.   He's just got a few quirks to iron out.   But I cried.   However, I never once viewed anyone in that room as the "enemy."

So let me be clear here ya'll.

Kids are smart.    Whether they have an IEP or a GIEP or no IEP.   Kids are smart.   They sense stuff.  If your kids sense that you have a negative rapport with their teacher or their team, it will impact their success.   It's just how the cookie crumbles.   If little Suzie knows you don't care for Mrs. Jones, do you think she's going to want to give Mrs. Jones her best? 

Be nice to special education teachers and the IEP team.   We aren't the enemy.   I promise. 

The reality is, right now, at this VERY moment - my family is up at the cabin.   I am NOT with them.  I'm in MY office reading the IEP's of MY students.   I SHOULD be making smores with my kids.   I should be catching some fireflies.   Instead, I chose to put your kid before my pleasure.   And I am NOT the only one.   We all make sacrifices.   Especially special ed teachers.   Be kind.   Form a relationship with your special ed teachers and case managers.   It goes a long way.

To the parents of the kids I teach - thank you for your love and support as we work together to plan a bright future for your child.   Thank you for the honor of allowing me teach and care for your child!